Learning Self-Awareness and Self-Control While Developing Empathy

The Four Domains of Emotional Intelligence are:

  1. Self-Awareness
  2. Self-Control
  3. Social-Awareness
  4. Relationship Management

Self- awareness facilitates both empathy and self-control. Empathy and self-control combine to provide effective relationship management.

Self Awareness is the Foundation. Without self-awareness, we cannot be aware of our emotions. We cannot manage emotions we are not aware of, so our emotions will tend to be out of control. Out of control emotions impair our ability to experience empathy and to connect with others. When our emotions are out of control, our relationships suffer – we do not have social awareness or the ability for social management.

Emotions Are Our Guidance System. Nature developed our emotions over millions of years of evolution. As a result, our emotions have the potential to serve us today as a guidance system. Our emotions let us know when any natural human need is not being met. For example, when we feel lonely, our need for connection with other people is unmet. When we feel afraid, our need for safety is unmet. When we feel rejected, it our need for acceptance that is unmet.

Perception is Everything. The way we appraise (see) our environment at any given time is important in determining how we respond emotionally. If we appraise a situation as a threat, put-down, or an insult, we are more likely to respond with anger and negativity.

Just because a man lacks the use of his eyes doesn,t mean he lacks vision” – Stevie Wonder

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